A diagnosis of cancer is something you always think of as happening to someone else, but what if it did happen to you?
What would you do?
How would you react?
What happens now?
Questions race through your mind.
The room starts to spin and you now are no longer hearing or are even capable of listening to anything the doctor is telling you, as your thoughts turn inward in shock.
How did this happen?
Your world feels very surrealistic; everything you knew seems to be fading away and you want to run screaming.
Your loved ones are there, trying to comfort you, but they don’t understand. Not really. After all, it’s not them that just got this death sentence handed down. Fear and sadness wash over you as the uncertainty of what is to come starts to settle in and feel a little more tangible.
You tune back in as you hear the word chemotherapy.
“I’m sorry, what?” you say, trying to pull yourself back into reality and focus on what you are being told.
You now are faced with a choice. A choice in what you choose to believe. A choice in what you think, feel and will experience from here on out. You have always had this choice, though maybe you were not aware of it.
Your current reality is an echo, a reflection of past choices, beliefs and actions. These thought patterns and life choices have gotten you to where you are today. But far more important is the looming question “Where will you be tomorrow?” This is likely the most important question you will ever ask yourself.
Where do I want to be tomorrow?
Society has trained us to believe that we, the patient, are powerless over cancer, and our bodies in general and healing can only take place through modern medicine and with complete trust in your medical doctor. Nothing could be further from the truth.
These human bodies are miraculous marvelous electrical machines and you, my dear fellow human being, are the heart and soul of the operation. You are in charge of every living cell. You are a symphony of electrical impulse and ever changing, ever regenerating life. It is now time for you to pick up that baton and conduct!
Doctors can act as facilitators, pointing you in the right direction and acting as guides (given that you have a good, knowledgeable and noble doctor who cares more about your health than medical politics). The field of Psychoneuroimmunology is the study of how the mind affects the body. “Psycho” refers to your thinking, emotions and mood states. “Neuro” refers to the neurological and neuroendocrine systems in your body. “Immunology” refers to your cellular structures and immune system. A good doctor will understand this connection and take it into consideration and work with you on healing the whole you…. but, when it comes down to it, the only person who can actually heal you, who can cure your cancer, is you.
That will have been a scary statement for many of you. If your choice is to live… to thrive… and to become whole and healthy again, it’s one you must accept, believe, and dedicate your self completely too.
Norman Cousins, Former Editor of the Saturday Review of Literature once said “The ancient idea that attitudes play a vital part in the recovery process is finding systematic verification in current medical research. There is little doubt about the fact that fear is a great accelerator of disease. Conversely, hope, faith, confidence and the will to live set an auspicious stage for efforts toward recovery.”
Taking back your power is the single most tremendously important step towards health. You must make a conscious decision that you are healthy. Not that you will be healthy, as the future never comes. We live in the present and it must be stated in the present tense.
The body regenerates itself on a cellular level constantly. You are, in fact, creating your own body with your thoughts along with the food you eat and the water you consume.
The way we think and speak is powerful.
“I AM not feeling well”, “I AM afraid.” “I have cancer.” And so on.
Our system is constantly producing new cells and trying its best to rejuvenate itself conforming to your commands.
The cells take in your energy and thoughts and that can create a sick state of being. On top of it we are stating it in the highest vibrational form possible by using the words “I AM”. We believe that we are ill; when in truth it is our body trying to communicate with us, to make us aware that something is wrong. That part of our thinking, and sometimes our actions as well, need to change.
Cancer is not a disease of the body. It is a disease of the mind and spirit that manifests itself physically in the body. It did not originate from sun block, the food you ate, the air you breathed in, or any outside source. Though many of these things certainly are antagonizing and contributing factors.
There have been documented cases that prove this mind-body connection. Some are so dramatic that they are hard to ignore. Some of the most dramatic have been cases where someone housing multiple personalities, where one of which has severe food allergies or insulin dependent diabetes, who when expressing another personality exhibits none of these physical problems.
One study conducted by Steven Greer was reported in several sources, such as “The Type C Connection” by Lydia Temoshok and Henry Dreher. He interviewed women three months after they had mastectomies and divided them into four groups according to their psychological coping style:
(1) those with a “fighting spirit” who accepted the diagnosis, adopted an optimistic attitude, sought information and were determined to fight the disease
(2) the “positive avoiders” who either rejected the diagnosis or minimized its seriousness
(3) the “stoics” who accepted the diagnosis but did not seek further information and adopted a fatalistic attitude
(4) the “helpless and hopeless” whose lives were preoccupied with cancer and dying.
At the end of five years, only 20% of the “helpless and hopeless” group were alive and disease free. This compared with 32% of the “stoics”, 70% of the “positive avoiders” and a full 80% of the “fighting spirit” group. A 10-year follow-up indicated that a “fighting spirit” was still significantly associated with a better prognosis.
All cancers are caused by excess stress in some form and misaligned or blocked thinking and energy, whether it is conscious or subconscious. To truly be cured, the root cause must be released and irradiating. It is not the answer.
Well… You may think to yourself, “That sounds simple enough. Stop stressing out.
Seriously? I have just been told I have cancer, how on earth am I supposed to stop stressing out?
Lord, this is a stupid blog…”
Just hang in there, I promise to get to the how.
We have established that you are in charge of yourself and your health. We have established that only you have the power to heal yourself. Many of us have become vastly disconnected from our own higher self, and even distanced from how we really feel here in our physical form.
Feelings were intended to be our own internal guidance system. When one is in tune with their feelings, it seems only natural to act on and trust your intuition or inner voice that we all have without question. I know from personal experience that when I choose not to listen to that inner direction, almost always without fail, it leads me to trouble.
Our modern society puts so much value and pressure on conforming to a societal standard of what is considered to be “normal”, where feeling down, depressed, frustrated or mad and exhibiting emotions are no longer considered acceptable, it seems we are not allowing ourselves to really feel or process our emotions any longer.
Dr. Ronald Dworkin tells the story of a woman who didn’t like the way her husband was handling the family finances. She was very stressed out and wanted to start keeping the books herself but didn’t want to insult her husband. The doctor suggested she try an antidepressant to make herself feel better. She took the antidepressant, and she did feel better, said Dr. Dworkin, a Maryland anesthesiologist and senior fellow at Washington’s Hudson Institute, who told the story in his book “Artificial Unhappiness: The Dark Side of the New Happy Class.” In the meantime, Dworkin says, the woman’s husband led the family into financial ruin. “Doctors are now medicating unhappiness,” said Dworkin. “Too many people take drugs when they really need to be making changes in their lives.”
If you watch TV at all these days you have undoubtedly seen the numerous drug commercials for this pill and that, touting that they will cure your depression, while showing you pictures of happy, successful, healthy looking men and women dancing, playing golf and spending time with their beautiful children. If you turn the sound off, these ads seem miraculous! Just pop this pill and your world will be exactly as you wish! You will feel wonderful and all will be well!
Yet we tell our children “Drugs are bad, Don’t do drugs.” – quite the hypocritical society we live in these days. Of course if you turn the volume back up what you hear is a terrifying list of side effects far worse in many cases than the original condition, up to and including risk of suicidal thoughts and even death.
How exactly is that better than depression?
It is health and emotional care strategies like these that encourage us to stifle our emotions, blocking your true wisdom and the true I AM presence of the self. Medication absolutely can make you feel better temporarily. I am not disputing that. The problem is that it is simply a delaying tactic. The feelings do not actually go anywhere and you will have to deal with them at some point in one form or another… and trust me, as hard as it is to feel some of them, it is far better to sit with your feelings, feel them, acknowledge them for what they are, release them and be done with it.
Think of it in terms of a time in your life when you have been mad at someone. If you choose not to say anything and not to confront them and talk it out, what happens? It festers. You think about it over and over, imagining what you might say, what they might say, getting yourself more and more riled up till you explode in a far bigger expression than it ever needed to be in the first place. It never “just goes away.”
It is stifling of emotions – which in their own form become toxic, which cause stress and in turn makes you sick, sometimes manifesting itself in the form of cancer among a whole host of other ailments.
By medicating with prescription drugs or self-medicating with street drugs or alcohol for that matter, you also open yourself up to the possibility of a whole host of side physical effects ranging from mildly uncomfortable and temporary to debilitating and permanent, up to and including death. Not to mention the “side effects” they may have on your mental and emotional states as well as your relationships with other people. It is not easy from the outside to deal with someone who is inebriated – be it on pills (prescription or other wise) or alcohol when in excess. Damage can be done and relationships may suffer, further hampering a healthy recovery.
The goal of life really IS to feel good, and live in the now but it cannot be done artificially and still produce real lasting and healthy results.
Stay tuned for part 2!
*This was originally released in ebook form but I strongly feel this information needs to be heard more quickly so I am publishing here free of charge.
Sarah J. Barendse