In the day and age of social media where you can “add a friend” in a mere click, how do you distinguish the difference between an actual friend and someone who is just an acquaintance?
That line is blurry for many. Friend collecting has become a virtual popularity contest. Facebook limits you to 5000 friends, though the number of followers you can have is endless. Say you reach that limit. Of those 5000 people, how many do you know in person? How many do you even recognize their names?
Not to say that social media cannot result in making genuine connections, it can. But this begs the deeper question.
What is an acquaintance?
An acquaintance is someone you have met in passing. You do not know them very well and haven’t made a particularly deep or solid connection. They are a surface level version of a friend.
What is a friend?
- A friend is someone who you enjoy spending time with, who you relate well to, you feel a connection with and whom you have things in common.
- A friend is someone you can confide in and trust.
- A friend is someone who genuinely cares about you and your wellbeing.
- A friend is someone who isn’t motivated selfishly in their intent who has your best interest at heart.
- A friend will defend you to others.
- A friend will speak well of you behind your back just as they would directly to you.
- A friend is someone with whom you can be yourself completely.
- A friend values your friendship and you theirs. There is mutual respect.
- A friendship is a two-way street, it is balanced in giving and receiving.
When you find a true friend, value them. Be good to them. Treat them as you would like to be treated. When this is done on both parts, that friendship can last a lifetime.
Real life friends aren’t made in a single click, it takes time. Acquaintances come and go, but true friendship is to be valued and cherished.
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Originally Published: http://monarchwellness.net/2017/04/do-you-have-friends-or-just-acquaintances/